FORGIVENESS IN MARRIAGE IS FREEDOM
( EPISODE 1 &2 )
My name is Jane, when i was in secondary school i met this young man called
Alex, he asked me out to be his girlfriend, i rejected the offer for the
first time, but after some months, he came back again and was pleading that
i should become his girlfriend, i agreed but i gave him one condition, i
told him never to break my heart, he promised me he will never break my
Me and Alex dated so long, i see him as my blood brother, Alex was the one
that broke my virginity, it happens that he invited me to his house one day
to come and cook for him, after cooking for him, he started playing with
me, and the play later resulted to another thing, he broke my virginity
that very day, i never regretted it for one day because i love Alex so much.
As time goes on, our love became more stronger, Alex parents were very
poor, my own parents didn’t have much but they are not poor like that of
My parents never loved Alex for once, they warned me never to have anything
in common with him, i told my parents that i love Alex and i cant leave
him, its either i marry Alex or i remain single for life.
My father forced me to leave Alex and look for another man, i insisted that
i must marry Alex.
On that fateful day, Alex came to our house looking for me, he met my dad
and asked him whether am at home, my father insulted him and threatened to
take away his life if he did not stay away from me.
Alex returned to his home with anger after the incident that happened
between him and my father.
when i heard what happened, i was very angry with my father, that night i
did not sleep in the house, i left and went to Alex house and slept, and
from that day, i never went back home.
After some few weeks, my parents began to search for me, they later knew
that i was staying with Alex in his house, and they knew that they can
never do anything to change my mind from marrying Alex, they started
pleading and begging Alex to release their daughter.
After one month, they noticed that if i continue living with Alex, he will
pregnant me, so they called Alex and told him to come and pay my bride
price, Alex didn’t have much money, but with the support i gave him, he was
able to pay my pride price and he took me home as his wife. what a strong
after living with Alex like about two months, there is this secret
character he have, i don’t really want to talk about it, but because i want
you to learn from this story i will tell you the secret character.
Th secret character is this, whenever Alex want to have sex with me, he
will be using cond0m, i told Alex that we are no longer
dating as boyfriend and girlfriend but we have gotten married, he gave me a
reason why he always use cond0m on me, i will tell you the reason in the
FORGIVENESS IN MARRIAGE IS FREEDOM
( EPISODE 2 )
Yes it was more than two months i got married to Alex, there is this secret
character which he had, he always use condom whenever he is making love to
me not minding that am his wife, not just a wife but a legally married wife.
When i asked him while he is still using cond0m on me, he told me that he
don’t have money yet to train any child, he said he dont want me to give
birth yet because, he will not
have the money to train the child or even send him to school.
The joy of every married woman is to be fruitful and to give birth to
children, this thing
became a rare issue between me and Alex, i told him to have faith in God,
the God that brings a child will provide for the child. Alex never gave
ears to what i was saying.
This thing continued for some months, i never complained to anybody, i
believe this is a personal issue which only me can solve, i didn’t tell
anyone about it, not even my parents.
This issue became a burden to me, what kind of woman will people tag me as?
some will say am
barren, some will say am cursed, while some will be gossiping with my name.
I gave a thought to this issue on how to tackle it, but i came up with no
idea, all i wanted is to
be pregnant and to give birth like other women. since i have no idea, i
needed somebody that will help and advice me on what to do, i have a good
friend called Sandra, she was a childhood friend but she never knew what i
was passing through in my marriage.
Note:[If you dont share your problems with someone, your problems will
remain with you].
So this thought flashed into my mind to share my problem with Sandra, i
invited her to my house when my husband have gone to work, When Sandra came
to my house, i told her everything, my good friend Sandra now gave me one
ideal, she told me to apply this common sense, she said……….
…..”whenever your husband is making love to you with that his so-called
condom, look for a way to tear the mouth of the condom, if you can play
safe and get this right, my dear you will become pregnant”……
oh! what a grate idea Sandra gave to me.
The next day i force my husband to make love to me, i was so thirsty to
apply the ideal Sandra gave me, My husband Alex was a very sensitive man,
although i was forcing him to make love to me, he never forgot to put on
During that awkward moment when he was making love to me, i never hesitate
to apply the common sense Sandra gave me,
After he made love to me that night, within 3 months, i became pregnant,
wow! what a miracle idea of Sandra, i couldn’t believe it, after some few
months, my stomach shoot out and it was now official that i am pregnant,
when my husband noticed that am actually pregnant, another serious problem
came up between me and him, he said he was never responsible for that my
pregnancy, he said he always use cond0ms on me and he will not allow me to
put him to shame, i told him he was the one responsible, as we were arguing
on the matter, he raised his hands on me and gave me a dirty slap, this was
the very first time
of Alex raising his hands on me.
The next day, Alex was ready for a divorce, he said he will divorce me
because he noticed that i cheated on him and i allowed another
man to sleep with me, on that very day, he packed all my belongings and
asked me to leave his house, i have no other option than to
tell him what i actually did, i told him everything and how it happened, he
was very angry and he reminded me of what he told me earlier.
[Alex talking………..” I told you that i dont have money to train any
child now”….. you must abort that child.
what! i shouted, i can never do it, i will never abort this child, that
same day, he gave me money to go and do abortion or i leave his
house. What happened next is what you never expected.